If you are following us on YouTube, you know that we are doing a whole video series where we talk about how we met and all the stories that go with that. In the most recent video, we talk about the emails that Andrew and I sent each other a few days before I officially moved to Nashville. I promised they would be posted in text form... so here they are!
DATE: October 28, 2013
SUBJECT: Considerations for Moving to Nashville
First, let it be known that the recent decision to uproot your location and move from West Des Moines (WDM) to Nashville is welcomed. It is both exciting and mind blowing to consider how in less than 9 days you will be living less than a mile from the Bachelor Pad, the place at which you have been staying up until your move in date, November 5, 2013. The prospect of that proximity is a relief, as it seems that I cant function properly merely hours after your departure. I am genuinely looking forward to the opportunity to spend more time with you, make more memories, and grow in our relationship. Enough of the business talk.
I hope that you are well aware that I have one ultimatum in our relationship. That serving you and helping you reach your full potential is my top priority; and if this is not the case, then I am not worthy to be with you. Yes, there will be failures and frustrations, but at the end of the day, I hope that you can honestly lay your head down and without a doubt know that in some way, I have helped. I have served. I have honored and respected.
In order to preserve this, I want to propose a few ground rules. I believe I have made clear to you that never before have I felt how I now feel, and I have never been put in a situation such as this. Obviously, I am making a rather big deal out of all of this, but its only because you are a big deal to me. Now, here are my propositions moving forward:
1) If you need help with ANYTHING, let me know. This includes dog sitting, cleaning, me leaving because Ive overstayed a welcome, or rides to and from the airport. I am not saying that I am the solution to all of your problems and don’t want you to have that expectation, but remember, I am here to serve.
2) Chances are, at some point along the ride, there will be days on which we don’t see each other. At first thought, that was what I was imagining, but I don’t think that should be the expectation. I plan on maintaining the mentality that each and every second spent with you is a gift, a treat, a blessing, and undeserved. On days that I don’t see you, I am still grateful for you. You and I both will be busy, me with football and school and keeping up with guys, you with your work. Lets try to be sensitive to that.
3) A side thought that I had was that in Iowa you have your parents and Tori and your friends. In Nashville, they aren’t here. I know you’ve lived in LA and all that, but I was still thinking of that. Youll have your group of friends here, but they are a different source of comfort from your family. I guess I just say this so that you keep this in mind.
4) I don’t want any part of this to be stressful. That may be idealistic of me, but if its too much of a hassle to move, or too much of a stretch to leave Iowa, or illogical with your travel schedule, then don’t overdo it.
5) I want to cook WITH you. I think it would be fun to learn and this is a good reason to start.
6) I really like hanging out with you. In all situations. Im sure we will have our alone time, and I desparately want that. But also realize I think youre funny around my friends and you fit in well. So if its okay, I hope we can hang out with everybody together. It’s a lot of my friends senior year, so its kind of weird knowing this is the last few months Ill be spending with them here.
I think the biggest thing is to just have realistic expectations. Let me know what you think about all these, I know its kind of ridiculous Im thinking of all of this, but I just want to be sure we go about this the right way.
Let me just start by apologizing for the delayed response. I'm not going to lie either, last night when I read this I got slightly overwhelmed and was uncertain as to how i should respond. SO, I'm going to give it my best attempt in putting in writing everything that is going through my brain so maybe you can understand things a little better.
1) I absolutely loved your e-mail. Don't think otherwise. I love how open you are, how you share your thoughts, and voice your concerns. I'm still learning how to do that. But in you e-mail, I wasn't sure if i was reading into things too much, if I am just getting nervous, or its a combination of both of us that left me feeling overwhelmed and questioning.
2) I am nervous. Flat out. I'm not stressed or anxious really, I'm just nervous. Something I'm not sure i've explained well enough in this whole decision and process is the magnitude on my end of what i'm getting ready to do. Ive moved many times before. I've lived in Dallas, LA, NYC, and even a few other places but they were always just temporary places and even though some of them i set out to live in permanently, I always knew i'd be coming back home. Well, this time is different. I sold my old condo and am renting out my house. Besides my new apartment, i don't have anywhere that is just mine to go back to anymore. This is my new "home", and the feeling of permanency or at least permancey of change is far greater than I've ever felt. I know this time is different. It doesn't make me want to change my mind or change any of my plans it just makes things more serious for me and leaves me restless at night. I've always said i was going to leave Iowa (and maybe come back later) to try and start making a long term life for myself and i feel i really am now. Now add into account how close i am to my family and i may just vomit hah! There's just a lot of change coming and its scary!
3) Why i am moving…. Want this one to be as clear as day. And don't take this personally at all or think this is insensitive, because Andrew… You mean more to me than I could have ever imagined. BUT I am moving to Nashville for me. Point blank. I have been looking for a new place for awhile, and I've been looking at Nashville for awhile. Whether for school or just a new home i fell in love with the city a